So as the eventful
Monday neared, her anxiety rose exponentially and her questions to me started
becoming all the more irritating. ‘ Will you be able to properly drop and pick
him up from his nursery’ (No, I will book
a cab for the toddler and let him manage on his own). ‘Will you be able to
feed him his meals properly?’ (No, I will
eat his cereals and baby food and keep him starving). ‘Will you be able to sing
all his lullabies and make him sleep properly’ (No, I will give him some sedative and let the dose do the needful).
I so wished to reinstate the fact that he is my son too but I refrained from
getting into any such vicious discussion and curtly kept on replying with a ‘polite
yes’. But expectedly she was not so convinced with my answers and kept on
feeling that I am not too concerned or geared up for the challenge ahead. To be
honest, I was not at all thinking about the week ahead, I was just trying to
keep myself as blank as possible with a mind-set to tackle things as they come.
As this how I have dealt with most of the key events of my life.
Not only was
she worried about the week ahead, Delhi (read in laws )was in a state of numbness,
Chhattisgarh (read parents) was breathing heavily too. As if their darling
son/grandson is all of a sudden going to get into some not so safe custody. So for
me to perform and survive in such a not so comfortable, hostile and
discouraging environment wasn't an easy task. But then I was more concerned
about managing my darling bwoy well, then fretting this unanimous lack
of confidence in my abilities J.
So the day
finally arrived and the day started a bit early too, as Mrs had to leave early
for her first day at office. She left early but not before shedding a bucket
full of tears, probably double of what she would have shed on her ‘bidai’ night, so much for the pain of
going away from her son for the first time for this long. I too got ready by
the time she left with an intent to keep my entire focus on the man of the hour.
So the task ahead included feeding him a bowl of milk/cereal, getting him ready
by putting on 6 layers of clothing as prescribed by her mother, getting his
baby bag all decked up for his nursery and leave at least 20 minutes in advance
so as to reach his nursery well in time. To make matters a bit more interesting
Avyaan chose to lighten himself up minutes before leaving the house, so I had to
do the 6 level undressing, cleaning up the mess and changing his nappies and
dressing him up all over again. So if feeding, dressing and other stuff weren't
some task in themselves, this was probably an added twister of the morning.
Anyways, we eventually left for his nursery and he had no clue as to where was
he heading to. Her mom kept on texting incessantly that ‘when you leave him there stay back for some time, he might cry and
would want to come back, don’t just leave him there and rush back…’, I
choose to ignore all of it and replied to none of those messages. After all, I was
the boss now!
We reached
there on time and when we entered the nursery Avyaan got visibly disturbed and
started crying inconsolably. It was a tough moment, all the more tough when you
have to leave him there crying and being all by himself. The staff there
advised me to leave immediately and not to worry at all. I abide d and came out
with a heavy heart, it wasn't a good feeling. But by the time I came out, I had
6 missed calls and 8 new messages on my cell, no points for guessing whose no.
was it. I called her up and she did all the
talking for next 10 minutes, ‘So did he cry’ – Yes | ‘Did he cry a lot’ –
Yes | ‘ You came out immediately’ – Yes | ‘ Can you hear him crying now too’ –
Yes | ‘Can you peep in and see if he is fine’ – No | and so on…. I decided to
stay outside and stroll around for the entire duration of his nearly 2 hour
session and her texts kept on coming all this while. I went in by the end of 2
hours to see Avyaan standing at the door still crying hard and probably waiting
for his dad or mom to come and take him home. And this was all the more gut
wrenching. I asked the care taker how was his day today, to which she said, he
kept on crying for the most part but that’s normal, things should improve in
days to come and he will be alright. He jumped on to me and hugged me hard,
probably as he has never done before, I could imagine how uncomfortable and
disturbed he was with this sudden change in his life. We came back home and he
was normal pretty soon. In between there were calls from Avyaan’s mom to know
about everything that happened in these 2 hours and probably a lot more too.
There were calls from Delhi too, to know about the grandson’s well being. And
not to forget, in between I attended some official meetings too, over the phone
wandering on the desolated streets of London, outside my son’s nursery, after
all I was not on leave J.
Back home,
act II - It was the time to cook, cook for Avyaan, cook for myself. So I cooked
for both of us, patiently invested 50
odd minutes to feed him his bowl of vegetable
khichdi and then sang him his lullaby clinging him on to my chest and making
him fall asleep in about 20 odd minutes. So where cooking for him and feeding him
were quite an important milestones achieved, making him asleep was probably the
icing on the cake J. He slept well for over two hours and that
helped me to complete lot of my office work and answer lot of calls from around
the world, giving minute by minute updates about the monster’s day so far. He
woke up fresh, full of energy and engaged himself in his own world thereafter, I
once again held fort and successfully fed him his portion of rice pudding to
complete my last important task of the day J. The mommy dear arrived soon and
reunited with Avyaan as if they were meeting after ages. I was told to once
again narrate the entire day as it happened ( probably the innumerable calls
and the texts during the day were all about discussing PM Modi’s plans for a
cleaner India). I repeated the entire string of events as it happened, with a
hope of getting some accolade for my supposedly brilliant job during the day,
but that was not to be.
The rest of
the week continued in the same vein, Avyaan’s crying in the nursery gradually
decreased and he settled through as the week ended. The two and half hours stroll around his nursery and office
meetings on the roads of London continued. The cooking, feeding and sleeping
efforts went on as diligently as did Mrs’ frequent calls and texts. I kept on
expecting some token of appreciation from some corner or the other but Delhi
and Chhattisgarh attributed this seamless and rather successful week to Avyaan’s
character and him being such a hassle free child and his mommy dear brushed
aside any such demand by saying ‘you have not done anything extraordinary,
this was expected out of you being his dad’ and ‘this is what I have been doing for months, have you ever applauded me
for the same’. I neither had an answer for this backlash nor had the energy
to indulge in an argument to rightfully claim my piece of appreciation. All I had
after this eventful week was a great sense of joy, contentment and pride in the
way we (dad son duo) have both collectively dealt through this rather
challenging week. And for me this excitement and thrill was probably the same
as it was when he was born on a sunny Sunday morning J. This indeed was an unforgettable
week for me which not only brought me a tad more closer to him but even taught
me a lot of things.
And for all
the greed for some applause, I would say the confidence that all my friends bestowed
on me by pinging me over the office communicator or over the phone throughout the
week and asking ‘ How is Avyaan doing’
or ‘What is there for lunch today’ or ‘ Has he slept’ and so on has been the
real dose of encouragement and praise to get me going so well J.
A week seemed to be a long time but salute to
Avyaan’s mom who has been doing this for months, my mom who has been doing it
for years and all the moms in the world who have been doing this for ages!. You
all rock. Thank You J
…
kin…
all accolades for my jijaji and gabbu singh!! beautifully penned
ReplyDeleteAwesome...beautifully expressed... loved reading it Kinshuk Awasthi!
ReplyDeleteLol.. Awesome!!
ReplyDeleteWe knew both of u would pass this eventful week with decent scores:) ... Well done gabbu n his dad....
ReplyDeleteBTW very nicely written!
Kinshuk Awasthi you write really well. And I totally can relate to your wife and her questions. I would just have a few hundred more !
ReplyDeleteFull points to the family! Very well done.. Nicely penned Kinshuk !
ReplyDeletelol! Kinshuk Awasthi - how much was the score for this week?! really enjoyed reading this masterpiece ...
ReplyDeletevry well expressed kin...enjoyed reading it...
ReplyDeleteAwesome!!!!! Vry well written Kinshuk.....
ReplyDeleteGr8 job kin
ReplyDeletevery well expressed...... good work kin n sonny
ReplyDeleteAaj khane mein kya bana? :)
ReplyDeleteCan relate to it so much....And and and ... Loved the guest appearance of Modi in story:)
ReplyDeleteVery well expressed ..familiar story for all working couples :) .. Totally understand ur wifey's tears as well as ur effort all that week
ReplyDeleteThanks all for reading the blog:)
ReplyDeleteGr8 job Kin!!
ReplyDeleteSuper Kin...
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