When I was a kid I was a
difficult child to parent. This is not something that my parents have told me
about but this realization has come in after I have become a parent myself. My
mother however, maintains that she has had a really tough time managing and
handling a plethora of complaints against me ranging from breaking glasses to
breaking heads and running around girls to make the teachers run around me for
some mischief or the other in the classroom and for a 100 other reasons. And
these complaints were addressed not just from my teachers and friends but also
from my friend’s parents, neighbors, close relatives, distant acquaintances
and strangers as well. Although with time, the volume and magnitude of these
complaints have softened up but I have hardly paid any heed to them until
recently when I got the first taste of what my mother has been going through
all these years.
It was few weeks back
when I went to pick Avyaan from his nursery in the evening and his care taker
pounced on me as if she has been waiting for this moment all day long. She
started with the routine updates on what all he ate, how much he slept for and
what all activities he did during the day and then paused for a bit before
saying that I need to tell you something.
I was taken aback for a while thinking that have
we not paid this month’s fees or much worse, are they closing down the nursery but she dispelled all my doubts
and very soon came to the point. She said Avyaan is not even 2 but off late he
has been pushing guys aged 4 & 5
years, time and again and they come back crying complaining about him to us.
When we try to make him understand that this is not good and you should not do
this, he looks at them, laughs out loud, remains idle for some time and then
repeats it again. I was clueless on how to react to this 1st
official complaint against him, whether I should laugh on his laughing gesture
after manhandling guys much bigger then him, I should say sorry for not being a
good parent or I should feel proud about my son being a menace for all the
other kids in his group. I chose to stay mum for the moment.
She went on saying that
you should keep a check on him at home and teach him to not indulge in such
things even if he does it unintentionally,
in a way telling me that I have failed as a parent to impart him right
mannerisms. I replied with an ‘Okay’. She continued saying, you should
ensure a right environment at home so that he stays away from such
unparliamentary gimmicks, I took it as,
tell it to his mom to stop pushing me and bossing around all the time so that
he doesn’t pick such things at home J. Though, I again replied with an ‘Okay’. And lastly she advised me to
teach him to not laugh if someone is reprimanding him for something wrong that
he had done, now I couldn’t reply to this
one as I have myself not been able to manage this all my life J. She mellowed down after her well-rehearsed speech and
concluded by saying there is nothing to worry, as these are his transition
years and hence these changes are normal, but we just need to be careful not
just here but also at home.
As we set out for home, I
jocularly told him ‘ you shouldn’t do all this, this is bad habit’.
He responded with a wicked laughter to which even I couldn’t stop mine J. But all along our
journey back home I was amazed on how dumbstruck I was (very unlike me) ,when his
antics were escalated to me. That night I called up my mom, shared the entire
story and told her today I realized that what you have been going through all
these years attending and addressing heaps of complaints against me. She laughed
out loud and said ‘this is just the
beginning beta, but good that you realized it on the very first occasion’J. This small but
important incident was enough for me to foresee a large number of speechless
moments that are lined up for the next few years, added with a measure of self-realization
on what my parents would have gone through during my childhood and much later J.
Now such things are part
and parcel of every household that is blessed with a toddler. Though, there is
general belief that as the child turns 2, it becomes terrible 2 for the parents.
Howsoever, cute and lovely and beautiful your child might be but the kind of
tantrums he/she throws on account of the terrible two syndrome, the apparent public
embarrassment makes him the most difficult child in the world J. Having said that,
these memories are the ones that makes your kid all the more dear and lovable for you J. And also makes you realize on what all your parents
have done and been through all their lives.
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kin…
It's always a delight to read your blog. Avyaan is growing up fast :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading:)
DeleteChhora hath se nikal giyo bhaya:)
ReplyDeleteBeautifully expressed Kinshuk...
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ReplyDeleteGud one kin. Very difficult to handle such silly things and that too in a sensitive way. Gud post.
ReplyDeleteKinshuk - well written ... But let me tell you ... Its all courtsey Shalini !! She used to boss around always and then have no mercy !!! wink emoticon ... I have grown up with her ... Ok now that I said this ... I would go and hide somewhere or else I am in trouble :)))
ReplyDeleteHaha..thanks Dimpy:)
DeleteVery well expressed!! ;)
ReplyDeleteThanks Moushmi:)
DeleteHa ha... Very well written... I could relate it with Atharv too:)
ReplyDeleteHaha..m sure Shweta its the same story in every household:)
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