Why not, let go the EGO.

Ego. Ego is a noun that more often than not rings negative alarm bells. Although, oxford dictionary defines it as ‘ a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance’, which can be as much taken in an assertive vein too but that is hardly how we perceive it as. And there are reasons to it, not just those big ticket arguments or altercations that leads us to talking about the ill-famed ego but even the innocuously silly bits in our day to day life. In fact, these bits contribute more towards our ego driven behavior.

For instance, how often it happens that we stop calling a dear friend of ours just because apparently it was his turn to call us next. We take it so much to our self-esteem that we forego that beautiful relationship just to satiate our senseless ego. And what makes it worse are the conclusions that we derive about that one time dear friend of ours just because he has also not called us back. Whose loss is it anyways? Certainly not just that friend’s.

How often it happens that we are driving our car on a busy road clogged by bumper to bumper traffic and some maniac barges in from behind and wrestles his way cutting past our lane, also forcing us to indulge in an impromptu slug fest with him. And we easily fall into this trap and engage ourselves in that acerbic altercation, with a single point angst that ‘how dare he did that to me’. Now in the hindsight, not quite sure what good can be achieved in those 30 odd seconds gained by brushing past some moron on the road or by getting into a bitter argument just to placate our ego. But in the longer run what we gain through that ego driven action of ours is just a Cipher.

We get into fights of various magnitudes with our family, friends, spouses and girlfriends, mostly on mundane issues. Issues, which we ourselves laugh upon at a later stage. But after every such fight, whosoever be the reason of that fight, we often get stiff and relatively resistant in getting things normal from our end. What stops us from normalizing things or making the first move is nothing but our inflated Ego. Those fights are inevitable and are an essential ingredient of any healthy relationship, but that post-operative ego blocker is the poison that makes things unhealthy.

With the heavy influence of social and electronic media we often get into discussions with our friends on a variety of trending topics ranging from politics to sports to everything. Many a times these discussions turn into arguments and we indulge in a race to prove that our point of view is the right point of view. Irrespective of who is right and who is not, the barrage continues with an unsaid mission of I should be the one delivering the concluding punch. Needless to say, there are no conclusions to these discussions but the ego driven ‘I’ that drives such arguments makes it very sad and murky.

Ego in the wrong vein always hurts and does damage that could be very detrimental and self-inflicting in the longer run. We often get stuck with things as we could not see anything beyond ‘I’ in them and that then becomes the breeding ground of a vicious egoistic behavior. It could be as simple as not liking or acknowledging posts from your friends and families on Facebook for no reason to not talking to your best of your friends because of a silly argument. Only if we could take things easy and on the go, as the word E GO also suggests, we will be a tad more happier in life. As after all, there is more to life than just the I.

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