Monday, March 8, 2010

Do we really deserve a Men's Day?

The build up to Women’s Day this year has been quite baffling for me. Lots of emails floating in the office emphasizing on the importance and existence of a Woman and also about the mega celebrations on the Women’s Day, including activities like ethnic fashion show and tempting and free sumptuous snacks to name a few but all with a disclaimer of ‘ For Women Only’, as if it has been deliberately planned to outcast people like me who are more than interested in both the fashion show and free sumptuous snacks. If this wasn’t enough the moment I entered my office this morning, I was in a fix that whether I have entered a wrong place or what, because I was totally misled by the soothing smell of 100’s of exotic perfumes and deodorants, forcing me to believe that I have mistakenly entered the banquet hall of Hotel Taj Krishna but for the same boorish expression on the building's security guard's face which made me realize that I am very much in the same place, I visit daily. Moments later I was again confused to find myself in a Ladies Sangeet gathering, but for their ID cards, the women all around were all heavily clad in none less than bridal saarees, overtly laden with truck loads of glittering jewelery and with atleast 3 extra layers of make up than usual, painted on their slightly familiar faces. Somehow I garnered little strength and tried to strategically place myself besides two other guys waiting for the elevator, who were also looking equally shocked,oppressed and frightened by the in flavor attitude of Women's Day. Now to add to our fury the elevator door opened and we found three equally over dressed prospective brides on the other side of the door, one of them was reading the Women's Day special edition of The Times of India and the other two were vociferously discussing the odds of passing of Women Reservation Bill in the parliament. I was anxiously waiting along with the two other pity souls on the edge of the elevator door for our destined floors to come, we were in such a state of petrification that can only be matched by 1st year engineering students in front of their most dreaded seniors, anticipating the cruelest form of ragging. But after probably one of the longest wait of my life the elevator doors opened on my floor and I almost ran to reach to my cubicle seat only to drink one full bottle of chilled water and kept wondering can't this day be an optional holiday for all the non women employees?

All the while I was thinking what bad or what cruel all the men on this planet have done that they don't have a day called 'International Men's Day' celebrating the cause of masculinity or manhood. The maximum the men get is a day called ' Father's Day' but to qualify for that one has to be a father at least. So no luck for young and mis opportune people like me here too. So what could be the reason of no such concept like 'Men's Day' in practice, as against the annually celebrated 'Women's Day'? One reason could be, we the men don't have the stamina and capacity to continuously chat on endlessly and hence we don't qualify for such felicitations. Another reason can be we the men don't have those extra terrestrial wooing powers which the likes of Urmilas and Shakuntalas had which made the likes of staunchest saints and yogis drooling for these ladies, leaving behind all there ethics and beliefs. Another probabilistic reason can be we hardly stand anywhere when it comes to the qualities of beauty and good looks. So with all these follies how can we even dream of a special day dedicated to our fraternity. So there is no point cribbing and getting jealous on the mega celebrations on Women's Day. In this hazy scenario the best we can do is to wish and pray to the almighty god that ' Agle janam mujhe beti hi keejo'.

But on a full on serious note I salute the intensity with which the women all around the world celebrate the concept of Women's Day. I really feel that all the women, be it our mothers, be it our sisters, be it our wives, be it our daughters or be it our house maids, all of them deserve a standing ovation for all the sacrifice, love and care they have given for the well being of the entire mankind. We the men of this planet can not repay this debt by any means, the least we can do is we can minimize this deficit by not harassing these beautiful women by the means of eve teasing, domestic violence or cruel things like dowry demands. The love, the care and the concern which we receive from all these wonderful angels is way beyond our imagination and rather priceless in comparison to any monetary or materialistic substitute we yearn for. We should always give due credence and respect to all the pain a woman bears for us right from the most excruciating pain of all pains, i.e the Labor Pain to the other unbearable mental pains we experience in our lives, just to give us a happy existence all through our lives. Also if there is some love, harmony and peace in today's world its just because of these beautiful princess, otherwise we men are far too carnivorous and blood thirsty to survive the myths and demons of anger, lust, power and pride.

So let us all take a pledge to treat all the women in our lives with utmost love and care and rather place them one pedestal above all the men, keeping aside our inflated male chauvinist egos and join all these beautiful ladies in the celebration of this day not just as a Women's Day but more so as a remembrance for all the sacrifices and act of love and kindness they have continuously bestowed on us. And thanks to all those beautiful women in our lives whose unconditional love and care for us is much deeper than those six layers of multi cosmetic makeups:)

Happy Women's Day!


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19 comments:

  1. Equally balanced writing... Good work.

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  2. I can see a good writer in you.... good going...

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  3. Hmm..good observations I must say and also there is a good news for all the men out der..we also have an International Mens Day Nov 19th which got ingaurated and is celebrated across world including India since 1999 .

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  4. Thanks a lot Manaswinee and Satish for your valuable feedback.

    And what a great piece of information Ratika has shared with us. In that case we should learn something from the Women and celebrate it in a big way. As I doubt many of our fraternity are even aware of the the concept of Men's Day:)

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  5. Very well written piece of work…although I feel the humorous part at the beginning laid the foundation to the blog but I feel that it takes the limelight away from the real essence of the blog which comprises of the last 10 lines J

    My personal views on Women’s Day is quite different..i feel that we do not need a day in a year for people to realize that women are important and an integral part of each and everyone’s life...what we need is people realizing the importance of having that pillar of strength for each day of their life…it is important for people to realize that having a son is not the last motto of their life..to stop female foeticides, to give equal education to the girl child as they do to anyone else..to have equal opportunity in all the areas of work…what we need in this society is the change in mindset of each and everyone so that we can do something about this. What we need is empowerment, failing which there will be no change in the situation and the purpose of celebrations will be lost in the hustle and bustle of the event

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  6. I believe in almost everything that you have written in your blog and you have written it very well. I have a hunch that whether asking this question in here is the right thing or not, but still i will carry in wid it. Why do pople have to give reservations, make stringent laws and make things complicated for the world. The girls can be given extra security measures, but in the eyes of law, sexes should not be considered. Instead of making complicated laws and reservation bills, simple laws should be made and enforced properly so that women get a conducive environment for progressing further up. They shoud not get special benefits because if they are equally caliborous(which they are), they should not be relying on these crutches.
    Cheers,
    Sid..

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  7. Well written Kinshuk, you covered the four paragraphs so well.

    This line is amazing buddy "thanks to all those beautiful women in our lives whose unconditional love and care for us is much deeper than those six layers of multi cosmetic makeups:)"

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  8. very nicely written.... you are a brilliant writer. keep it up..!!

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  9. Marvellous work bro:)

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  10. good one...m sure u will be a BETI in ur agla janam...

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  11. Nice write-up.:) Have you written any books?

    Hope we dont forget this day - Nov 19 Awaiting another article on that day:)

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  12. Very well outlined the essence of women in our lives and it is unfortunate that malpractices in our society sometimes make them go through the unwanted pain as well. I am sure such writings at individual level will definitely help to create awareness amongst the masses in the long run.

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  13. Very nicely written.......

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  14. Extreemly good write-up...

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  15. I see a very good writer in you......why dont you try writing columns for news papers..... a very balanced article.bravo

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  16. Hey Kinshuk, I have couple of friends in Times Of India but in Pune...but i guess its better to start from somewhere....if you want may be i can initiate a conversation with those folks....and you can take it from there.. :) let me know

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  17. hey samir thanks for the update. Can you share your cordinates(email or phone no) with me so that we can take it offline. Thanks for your help:)

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  18. Hey Kinshuk...Great Article..Never knew this side of you...:)

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  19. Hey extremely good one.......if you wish, i can send this article to get published in our NessScape magazine

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